You’re getting jiggy with it and you reach for the condoms and your partner says any of the following:

“I don’t like condoms”

“I can’t stay hard with condoms”

“It’s not as intimate with a condom”

“I once saw a documentary about how condoms are ruining the planet and therefore I refuse to use condoms”

Ok maybe that last one is a stretch, but you get the picture. There are many reasons given for not wanting to use condoms. Of course, if you’re in a stable relationship and have been tested for sexually transmitted infections (STIs), have other birth control (or indeed, baby-making) plans, then condoms are really the only way to prevent STIs.

So, we need to have a good comeback if we find ourselves under the sheets with a man who isn’t a fan of condoms. Here are some tips:

  1. Try it. Maybe it’s different with you.
  2. Try different condoms; there are plenty of different brands, sizes, thicknesses out there. The condom industry knows that not one size fits all, so it’s just about finding best fit. And hey, you’re going to have a lot of fun trying them all out.
  3. Make sure it’s clear that it’s a non-negotiable for you. No-one should be pressurised into having sex without a condom by their partner.
  4. Check out this Greenpeace guide to eco-friendly sex, if you or your partner are conscious about the biodegradability of your condoms.
  5. Try the female condom — this also protects from STIs.

Ultimately, if he’s still not willing to use condoms, then you need to question the relationship. A partner who respects you will be willing to try and find a solution together with you — one that does not involve you crossing your own boundaries.

If you want to explore other birth control options, then be sure to explore the website here at Four Five Oh – Explore your options.