My memory of sex education is a combination of the smell of burned custard (the only session I remember took place in our primary school lunch room), wooden benches, and free samples of tampons. That is as far as it got. The rest I learned through teen magazines, shy conversations with girlfriends and then at some point, experience.

So, my list of what I wish I’d learned in sex ed is quite long. The scary thing is, I think for most women (and I think also, the guys too), the list is just as long. Here are the key things I wish I’d been told

How my body works.

Much more important than sex with other people is the first step of understanding what’s happening when. OK, we talked about periods, we talked about tampons. But nobody really talked about ovulating, nobody talked about the cycles, about why we might be feeling emotional, why our breasts might swell a bit.

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How to discover how my body works

OK, we were told to go home, grab a mirror and check out our undercarriage. We all spent a few nights (or longer) wondering if we were aesthetically pleasing ‘down there,’ if our lips were too flappy, if one was bigger than the other.

But what about learning our own cycle – Does my period come every 20 days? How long is my cycle? How do I know I might be ovulating? Do I get PMS?

Thank God, it’s now 2018 and we can take things into our own hands here – we love the period tracking apps (our favourite is Clue App – but do share your favourites!)

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How to talk about sex, our bodies & birth control with our partners

Crucial conversations – they’re not necessarily easy, but they’re crucial for successful relationships and happy people. Any of you dated a man who didn’t want to know if you had your period? Or who told you birth control was your own problem? Who got mad if your period started while you were having sex? I can see you nodding!

This happens because we aren’t trained to talk about stuff like this. Women have on average 450 periods during their lifetime, it shouldn’t be a taboo (and, we know it is for many …). 

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Yes, it’s also hugely important that you hear how to use a tampon, what options of birth control are out there (hello, that’s us, at your service!), but it’s also really important that we learn to talk about it.